Commemorating the Anniversary of a Death
Posted: Nov 29 2017
The anniversary of the death of a loved one can bring forth so many emotions. You might wonder how to celebrate or commemorate the death anniversary, or if what you want to do is appropriate or enough.
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Here are some ways you can commemorate the anniversary of a loved one's death.
There is No Wrong Way
To start, there is no wrong way to act. You might decide to carry on as usual and not do anything differently. You might decide to have a death anniversary celebration with other family and friends. Or you might decide to spend some time at the gravesite or other type of memorial. The important thing to remember is that the way you grieve or recognize this day is right for you and may not be the way another person will do it.
Give in His or Her Name
Donate to a charity in your loved one's name, and choose a cause that was special to them. For example, if they were passionate about animals, you can donate to the local ASPCA or Humane Society. Or you can plant a tree in their honor, or start a scholarship fund. You may also decide to donate their clothes or other belongings to those who are in need.
Do Something Personal
Do you remember watching a movie that was special to the two of you? Or did he or she write you letters or send you something meaningful? Pull these mementos out and cherish them even more today.
Celebrate With Friends and Family
If you're feeling up to it, you can put together a celebration with close friends and family. Invite them to share a meal and memories. You can even task each person with bringing one of your loved one's favorite dishes.
Take a Trip
Did you plan to take a special trip together? This might be the time for you to do that. And if the trip you discussed is not possible at this time, you can always go somewhere the two of you enjoyed together, or someplace he or she talked about wanting to go.
Grieve the Way You Need To
Maybe none of these ideas are what you have in mind, and that is all right. Do what you need to do to grieve, and feel free to express your emotions in the ways you need to. Today is a day that is not only about your loved one, but about your healing process. Overcoming grief and loss is not an overnight process, nor is it one that will be resolved by a certain date. Take the time you need, the way you need it.
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